“WOMEN ARE THE BIGGEST CHEATS”

For the past decade Cherie Green run confidential introduction business for people wishing to have an affair – www.aboutlovers.co.za. She assert or affirm that she is qualified to speak about why South African women have affairs, with reference to the article published in Sunday Times (6 September).

She highlights two basic reasons. The first is the need for a high-status man to pay attention to them, compliment them and generally make them feel they are desirable again. This according to Cherie may be a sad commentary on the neglect and lack of emotional intelligence of their male partners. The second reason is fundamentally different and seems to relate to the emerging South African culture.

She further states that South African women love money and all it can buy, which include cars, trips, jewellery, designer accessories (especially luggage and handbags) and “pocket money”. Even professional women, who may be financially independent, want to be spoilt by their new lovers. Tokens of affection don’t count – they want the real stuff!
If men are not wealthy executives, professionals or entrepreneurs, they (women) are simply not interested in meeting them. Hence the display of social status extends to the world of affairs, claims Cherie. She explains that there is no apology for this from either party – it’s a tacit but mutual understanding. The article in Sunday Times (6 Sept ’09) stated that women were better at lying and deception than men. She admits that she hasn’t noticed women being better or worse than men at keeping their private affairs, because they (the cheating pair) know what they are doing, and are very careful.
She explains that what she has noticed is that men are more reckless, because to them a glamorous mistress is another way of displaying status, by drawing attention to what they can afford.
Adapted from Sunday Times – 13 September 2009, letter by Cherie Green.